Hello, welcome to my website!

I hope you’re not in ongoing pain but if you are, this website was created to provide a positive outlook for people who are experiencing chronic pain.

Created in 2011 this website was made for people like you. I want you to know that what you might be feeling right now is not forever and that you can change your situation.

I couldn’t hold my mobile phone or a glass of water without triggering my nervous system. Yet, here I am… working part time, with very low pain levels and symptoms and a returned quality of life – I even founded My Health Story, a health tech platform to help people with chronic illness.

Who am I?

My name is Soula and I live in Australia. I literally fell into the land of pelvic chronic pain – specifically Pudendal Neuralgia (PN), on March 1, 2007 when a fitball I was sitting on burst and I fell to a concrete floor.

At the time, I was working at ooi, a design company that I own with my husband Theo in our beautiful Collingwood warehouse. I was also an exhibiting artist until pain put an end to that for a few years.

Since my accident in 2007, I’ve learned a lot about chronic pain – especially that you can manage it (I know what you’re thinking, you’re wrong, you really can).

I want people to learn from my experience because I believe the ongoing issue I now live with was totally avoidable. I was undiagnosed for 4.5 years and that was THE most tragic part of my accident.

Get ready

Do you believe in yourself? Do you find yourself thinking, ‘hey, I know more about my experience than my health carers do? That’s because it’s true.

Sure, chronic illness is confusing and complicated and it fatigues you so you can’t think but know that underneath all that is the information you need to get better.

Are you prepared to learn a great deal about yourself and make changes to your life?

This is the road back to YOU. And some of you will return to a 100% version of you and others will return to a new version of YOU. But know that you will get there.

Despite what you’re feeling right now and despite thoughts like, ‘my pain is different’, ‘this is more serious’, ‘no one can help me’, I encourage you to take a huge breath and get ready to drive because you are leading the way forward. Yes, you!

My treatment

Since my diagnosis 4.5 years after my fall, I’ve been able to find treatment that is slowly chipping at the glacier.

For me, this includes;

I was living with unbearable pelvic chronic pain that made me feel like I had my finger stuck in a powerpoint. I was sleeping my life away and, when not sleeping, in so much pain it was impossible to achieve much at all.

I was existing, not living.

My return to life

Not only did I find a way to move forward but I traded the unfortunate experience with advocacy so I could further support people living with chronic illness and Victorian injured workers.

It’s been an overwhelming emotional journey since 2007. As well as the endless hunt for treatment, I have:

So let’s begin:

  • Do you have chronic pelvic pain?
  • Have you had this pain since injury, pregnancy, birth, or other trauma to your pelvic area? Perhaps you are an elite athlete or cyclist?
  • Does it feel like a toothache?
  • Does it itch and gnaw?
  • Do you feel like you’re on fire?
  • Do you feel spasms, fluttering and glitchy?
  • Are your toilet and sexual signals and functions irregular?
  • Is there no obvious issue with your x-rays and MRIs?
  • Do you find distraction can often work incredibly, but afterwards, the pain becomes excruciating?
  • Is the pain often worse after activity rather than during?
  • Do you feel no one quite understands you, your explanations, and your pain descriptions?
  • Have you been told you have a Psychological Condition and been left to feel like you’re crazy?
  • Do you associate your pain with ringing in your ears and feel you can’t pinpoint where it is?
  • Would you say it’s sometimes painful to speak and that sounds and speaking hurts?
  • Have you had endless appointments with no relief?
  • Do vibrations, a fright, or bumps send a surge through your spine?
  • Do your legs feel weak?
  • Do you find sitting unbearable?
  • Have you fallen on your coccyx or had an accident, and after years it still feels like it happened yesterday?
  • Are you part of an Australian Workers’ Compensation system and feel you are being treated poorly and that the whole system is like a circus?
  • Do you feel the Australian Workers’ Compensation system can’t help with return to work because the VWA Agent treats you poorly?
  • Do you feel the system is outdated and primitive and has no understanding of chronic pain or your situation?

Then I sadly welcome you (NOT) to the world of chronic pain.

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Acknowledgment

I have to acknowledge my diagnosing physio, Anne-Florence Plante who lent me her research and encouraged me to put this website together. Also, a huge thanks to the contributors who wrote letters of support and allowed me to share their valuable information.

Another reason why I made the site is that I felt Victorian injured workers needed some advocacy also. My experience with the Victorian Workcover Authority (VWA) has been horrific. From my experience, this system merely seems to exist to generate funds for itself and only adds to the pain and trauma of an injured worker.

A reminder that this website is a documentation of my experience and my treatment (appropriate and not!). No information provided on this site is a form of recommendation in any way. Each of us has a unique experience with chronic illness, and each has to find our way through it.

  • soula baking (and pacing)
Pacing (and Baking)

A brief note on pacing Sometimes pacing means trading a walk to manage baking a cake. I wanted to post this as too many of us managing chronic illness are made to feel guilty when we can't exercise. There are many times I don't go for a walk because I either want to do something extra special or I have done something extra special. Stirring, lifting, weighing ingredients, pouring, handling the mixer, and grating beetroot (in this cake’s case), form part of [...]

  • Soula presenting at Coda22-3
My Lived Experience at CODA Conference

The Primary Care workshop at this year's CODA Conference was my favorite lived experience contribution to date! The workshop approach was more effective than my other 'standup gigs'. Something has clicked with me lately – I've stepped out of chronic illness's emotional and physical sides and more often partaking in health education. I like it! We must believe that twitches, spasms, toilet function-changing effects, noise, screaming, soreness, stabbing, burning, itching, fatiguing, and draining effects of chronic pain can be controlled. If you had told me this between my first and 4.5-year mark, I would have felt angry and said, 'My issue is severe, far more serious than everyone realises, and my healthcare practitioners are all missing the terrible thing in my body, and I am going to die from it.'

  • Soula & Theo at San Marco Venice
A Venetian Refuelling

I feel completely rejuvenated and jubilant after Theo's and my recent 3-week trip to Italy. Since my spinal cord stim implant, our life and livelihood seachange, and now, with an anti-inflammatory focus, I can feel confident that pain levels will remain right down and my happiness right up. This is a big announcement for my brain.

  • Soula Mantalvanos Hour glass wip on the easel
Report from ISO

Well, hello, COVID. After all the care, caution and staying in, Omicron finally caught us from no idea where. After all the fear of catching this virus, considering my Inflammasome gene and my chronic health issue, I'm happy to report that I breezed through it! I was abundant with the usual energy that comes to me when social obligation falls away. In addition, the pain levels fell away as they have done with previous colds – can the brain not manage two signals or is a virus some distraction? I went with it. I got stuck into my studio!

  • Soula Mantalvanos It's time for cake
It’s my Birthday

I feel like switching the 'anniversary' thingy to a 'birthday.' I know it sounds oddly celebratory, but I also know that you have read stranger things on this website so remain unafraid to explore this latest idea with you.

  • Soula In Tassie
Commitment, sacrifice and granting myself the right permissions

Last week, I attended my last acupuncture appointment and for the first time in over seven years, am therapist free. Hang on, I have to just repeat that: I am therapist free Did I ever think this day would come? Of course I did and I believe that's why I am here. I have had my moments, but what I didn't realise through all that heat and whilst pacing like a snail, was that each flare up and pain episode was actually not an indication that pain was here to stay, but rather that it was actually beginning to leave. Although just a difference of minutes initially, eventually I felt the flare ups spreading further apart. And with recognising that change and NOT increasing my capacity past a snail's shell weight, I began to make progress.