Hello, welcome to my website!

I hope you’re not in ongoing pain but if you are, this website was created to provide a positive outlook for people who are experiencing chronic pain.

Created in 2011 this website was made for people like you. I want you to know that what you might be feeling right now is not forever and that you can change your situation.

I couldn’t hold my mobile phone or a glass of water without triggering my nervous system. Yet, here I am… working part time, with very low pain levels and symptoms and a returned quality of life – I even founded My Health Story, a health tech platform to help people with chronic illness.

Who am I?

My name is Soula and I live in Australia. I literally fell into the land of pelvic chronic pain – specifically Pudendal Neuralgia (PN), on March 1, 2007 when a fitball I was sitting on burst and I fell to a concrete floor.

At the time, I was working at ooi, a design company that I own with my husband Theo in our beautiful Collingwood warehouse. I was also an exhibiting artist until pain put an end to that for a few years.

Since my accident in 2007, I’ve learned a lot about chronic pain – especially that you can manage it (I know what you’re thinking, you’re wrong, you really can).

I want people to learn from my experience because I believe the ongoing issue I now live with was totally avoidable. I was undiagnosed for 4.5 years and that was THE most tragic part of my accident.

Get ready

Do you believe in yourself? Do you find yourself thinking, ‘hey, I know more about my experience than my health carers do? That’s because it’s true.

Sure, chronic illness is confusing and complicated and it fatigues you so you can’t think but know that underneath all that is the information you need to get better.

Are you prepared to learn a great deal about yourself and make changes to your life?

This is the road back to YOU. And some of you will return to a 100% version of you and others will return to a new version of YOU. But know that you will get there.

Despite what you’re feeling right now and despite thoughts like, ‘my pain is different’, ‘this is more serious’, ‘no one can help me’, I encourage you to take a huge breath and get ready to drive because you are leading the way forward. Yes, you!

My treatment

Since my diagnosis 4.5 years after my fall, I’ve been able to find treatment that is slowly chipping at the glacier.

For me, this includes;

I was living with unbearable pelvic chronic pain that made me feel like I had my finger stuck in a powerpoint. I was sleeping my life away and, when not sleeping, in so much pain it was impossible to achieve much at all.

I was existing, not living.

My return to life

Not only did I find a way to move forward but I traded the unfortunate experience with advocacy so I could further support people living with chronic illness and Victorian injured workers.

It’s been an overwhelming emotional journey since 2007. As well as the endless hunt for treatment, I have:

So let’s begin:

  • Do you have chronic pelvic pain?
  • Have you had this pain since injury, pregnancy, birth, or other trauma to your pelvic area? Perhaps you are an elite athlete or cyclist?
  • Does it feel like a toothache?
  • Does it itch and gnaw?
  • Do you feel like you’re on fire?
  • Do you feel spasms, fluttering and glitchy?
  • Are your toilet and sexual signals and functions irregular?
  • Is there no obvious issue with your x-rays and MRIs?
  • Do you find distraction can often work incredibly, but afterwards, the pain becomes excruciating?
  • Is the pain often worse after activity rather than during?
  • Do you feel no one quite understands you, your explanations, and your pain descriptions?
  • Have you been told you have a Psychological Condition and been left to feel like you’re crazy?
  • Do you associate your pain with ringing in your ears and feel you can’t pinpoint where it is?
  • Would you say it’s sometimes painful to speak and that sounds and speaking hurts?
  • Have you had endless appointments with no relief?
  • Do vibrations, a fright, or bumps send a surge through your spine?
  • Do your legs feel weak?
  • Do you find sitting unbearable?
  • Have you fallen on your coccyx or had an accident, and after years it still feels like it happened yesterday?
  • Are you part of an Australian Workers’ Compensation system and feel you are being treated poorly and that the whole system is like a circus?
  • Do you feel the Australian Workers’ Compensation system can’t help with return to work because the VWA Agent treats you poorly?
  • Do you feel the system is outdated and primitive and has no understanding of chronic pain or your situation?

Then I sadly welcome you (NOT) to the world of chronic pain.

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Acknowledgment

I have to acknowledge my diagnosing physio, Anne-Florence Plante who lent me her research and encouraged me to put this website together. Also, a huge thanks to the contributors who wrote letters of support and allowed me to share their valuable information.

Another reason why I made the site is that I felt Victorian injured workers needed some advocacy also. My experience with the Victorian Workcover Authority (VWA) has been horrific. From my experience, this system merely seems to exist to generate funds for itself and only adds to the pain and trauma of an injured worker.

A reminder that this website is a documentation of my experience and my treatment (appropriate and not!). No information provided on this site is a form of recommendation in any way. Each of us has a unique experience with chronic illness, and each has to find our way through it.

  • Self portrait as a flower (with Zephyr)
Why a flower?

Chronic pain is a waste of life’s precious time, its a huge hold up. But if you have to deal with it then you have to find a way to cope through the awful journey and survive it. Before my precious implant (Professor Teddy I love you!!), I couldn’t move much without pain, everything hurt and it hurt all the time. And yet, my gorgeous friends and family kept telling me ‘but you look so good for someone who’s in pain all day!’ (Uum… thanks??).

My clock

When your signals don't function properly you have to come up with new systems to get through the day. This is one I found very useful, it goes something like this: Don't forget to wee!

Art and distraction

My creativity has been one of my main coping mechanisms through my chronic pain life. It's the place I go to feel free, release the steam, express my pain, and to get distracted to the point of pain! But it's worth it every time. There isn't a lot I can achieve with my capacity so one drawing, one painting over months, one post on my blog... anything, it's all worth it.

Pain loops, syndromes and an over protective brain

How many definitions for pain signals are out there? It doesn't stop and I have to be really honest here, it all sounds like hogwash for a person who was unstoppable and prior to her injury had the stamina of a bull (as a friend once described me).

  • PPA Launch - Soula, Lorimer and Anne-Florence
Diagnosis: Physiotherapy at the Women’s

It felt like a miracle and took all of about 15 minutes for the phsyiotherapist (at the chronic pelvic pain clinic at the Women's here in Melbourne Australia) to give me her French infused explanation that my pain was most probably coming from my Pudendal Nerve (yes, a name, I had a name!). It took another 15mins for her to put me in on my back (I never lay on my back as it was too painful) and apply a pressure/postural technique that switched my pain off! (Yes, OFF... calm, silence, stillness, roar gone, no spasm, quiet, peace)... unbelievable but this is true.

  • Spinal Stim Trial 02
Chronic Pain Treatment: My list of practitioners

The most supported I've felt is when I've come across a practitioner who listens and wants to work with me specifically. I mean really take note of what's going on and want to learn themselves too. Chronic pain is still so difficult to understand, and of course I can't recommend or even suggest that my experience might be a solution for someone else but I can provide the contact details for 'team Soula'. Stage 1: The Search Dr Harry Crock, retired Mr [...]