/, Blog, Living/Married 20 years today

Married 20 years today

Theo and I celebrate our 20 year anniversary today. 10 of those years we’ve had to unwillingly share with chronic pain, 5 of which, I can totally admit I was not really present.

Celebrations are so hard because you can never celebrate the way you used to.

You can’t celebrate the way you want to either.

Even if 10 years have gone by, I know for sure that Theo and I would have had suitcases ready now and we’d be planning a great trip overseas to mark our anniversary as well as our birthdays which all fall in November.

We’ll travel again but just can’t now.

I don’t want to be melancholy. We will celebrate today and have a very special dinner tonight. Out. Outside of my 1km radius.

The reason for my post, is to acknowledge the extraordinary man I married and to share the message I wrote on his card today – it really will be ’til death do us part’.

If a couple can survive living with a chronic illness, they’ll survive almost anything I think!

Happy anniversary babe. The worst, surely must be over.


By |2017-11-02T14:31:34+11:00November 2nd, 2017|About, Blog, Living|8 Comments


  1. Kathryn November 11, 2017 at 12:50 pm - Reply

    Congratulations Soula and Theo, reaching 20 years is a testament to your commitment to your union and a measure of the people you remain notwithstanding your chronic pain journey. I salute you both.
    PS I love the photo x

    • soula November 11, 2017 at 2:37 pm - Reply

      Thank you Kathryn. We both feel very fortunate.

  2. Sue Carey November 3, 2017 at 9:41 am - Reply

    My dearest Soula and Theo,

    Many Congratulations on your 20th Wedding Anniversary!
    This is such a beautiful love letter; a true demonstration of marriage in action.
    “For better, for worse ~
    For richer, for poorer ~
    In sickness and in health ~
    Until death does us part.”
    I wrote in my 34th Anniversary to Mark, that after 23 years of my pain, he had more than honoured his vows, and how thankful I am.
    Our paths are so similar Soula, in so many ways.

    You and Theo are a shining example of love, a true partnership, a rare sight these days.
    What a gift and a blessing you are to one another, and to the rest of the World.
    Sending you much love and gentle hugs ~ hoping that you were able to enjoy your celebratory dinner.
    With much affection,
    Sue xx xx

    • soula November 3, 2017 at 10:50 am - Reply

      We’ll need to erect statues of our beautiful me! Thank you beautiful Sue xxxxx

  3. Esther Rosenow November 3, 2017 at 9:15 am - Reply

    Congratulations. This is heartening. Sending much love your way.

  4. Loretta Holscher November 3, 2017 at 4:16 am - Reply


  5. Susan Karlson November 2, 2017 at 7:47 pm - Reply

    Hello, please look into chiropractor care. I am on year 3 struggling with pain. The chiropractor is balancing out my body from the neck down. It is working. I have had surgery to move three perineal branches of pudendal nerve with Dr Dellon. This stopped the rising pain. My chiropractor is getting rid of the sciatica and pulling of the pudendal nerves bringing blood flow and oxygen back into these areas. I am using peristeen which also helps . This is my third chiropractor. They are all different. Good luck

  6. Rob Tomlinson November 2, 2017 at 3:01 pm - Reply

    Dear Soula and Theo
    Congratulations to you both on your 20th, not a bad score by these days. I have been with you for ten years with a similar journey, the latest procedure being a failure . I will write latter, as today is your top day, Theo looks so young and handsome, you are blessed – have a top day and may all your days be brighter forever.
    My love to you both at this time.
    Rob Tomlinson – a big Hug O

Leave A Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.